then the guilt follows...

I did it... I tried to say no. In fact, more than 'tried' I did say no. But the problem was I ended up feeling mightily guilty - like a really selfish old trout.

Set me off thinking though - there is a right time to say no, and a right time to say no and not be guilty that your friend / colleague is going to have to find another willing fool, sorry, participant.

So, I've decided to take another tactic - to say yes, but to

- find out what I'm saying 'yes' to, in full, before doing it
- explain how busy I am and that I can't do it straight away
- ask when the 'favour' needs doing by, and if I can't make it, say no

Oh yes, a plan - I like plans... let's see if I can stick to this one today. I'm suffering from a lovely cold, so it's going to be like wading through mud to just make the simplest of decisions today but we'll see.

Have a great day lovelies and speak soon

Eva x

saying no...

Don't know about you Busy Girl, but I have a real issue saying "no". It's not just me, my more conscientious friends are the same - whenever someone asks us for a favour, we automatically say 'ok, yeah, I'll help you'.

I always seem to say yes to a seemingly simple task and then find out what I've really let myself in for when it's too late to back out. The favour usually becomes something I don't really have the time to do - like ferrying boxes backwards and forwards or waiting for hours for a delivery. I end up frantically rushing to get all my stuff done too - or it gets forgotten in the haste.

I'm going to make it my quest today to say 'no' to something that I'm asked for.

Can you imagine - the next time my boss asks me something I'll be like 'No!' - ok, maybe I'd better figure out my boundaries.

Why don't you try it too? Together we will become liberated Busy Girl (or sacked)...

Eva xx


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